We can help some people all the time, we can help all the people some time, but if we have to help all the people all the time it can get incredibly draining. But some people are hardwired that way.
It is very difficult for them not to feel obligated to put their own interests and well-being aside for the sake of anyone and everyone who approaches them.
It is almost as if there is an inbuilt trigger that goes off as soon as they are approached for any kind of work - making it impossible for them to refuse, no matter the effect on their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. It also interferes with their time management skills and thus productivity.
It can result in these people feeling stressed, depleted, anxious, helpless, etc. The other impact of being hardwired like this is that they become easy targets for energy vampires.
Energy vampires are those who feed on the willingness of anyone to listen and care for them, leaving the givers depleted, exhausted and extremely overwhelmed.
Though it is extremely honorable to give and help in any way or form, setting boundaries is equally important to ensure that this generosity is not misused. But this can be a very difficult topic for these givers, which can lead to them feeling a lot of resentment and also very unappreciated.
In some cases, it is also very likely that these kinds of people find it difficult to take help from others. It does not feel natural and they can feel very uncomfortable when others try to help them.
If you are one among these generous givers who feel obligated to help everyone - I just have to say what you are doing is incredible and the amount of joy that you spread is truly valued.
But the moment there is a sense, feeling or even a hint that your need to help others is being misused, it is time to set some healthy boundaries. But the catch is, that it has to come from your own free will.
EFT and guided meditation along with hypnotherapy can help you get past the conundrum of who to oblige and whom not to. It can also help you set some healthy boundaries, so you can continue doing the good work without feeling overwhelmed and out of time, while also protecting you from any energy vampires.
The call/desire to set these healthy boundaries must however come from a place of free-will, for any of these methods to work.
If you or anyone you know would like any help in this matter, please check out the links above and below for contact information and packages available.
