EFT- A Way Of Life

Image by wayhomestudio  on Freepik Have you ever had one of those days when for some reason you seem to be triggered by the most innocent or simplest of the words. Some triggers can be intense enough to elicit a strong reaction from you, that the other person is left wondering "What did I do wrong? " How often have you stopped and stepped back to ask yourself this "Why was I triggered so much? " "Which of those words triggered me? " "Why am I so affected? "  Once you get these answers you can save yourself and your loved ones a lot of pain.  Because triggers are just that. They point you in the direction of the real emotion that has been still left unprocessed inside. Either emotion that you do not want to look at or emotions that are desperate for an outlet. And they can be incredibly confusing. A situation at work can find a trigger

Image by jcomp on Freepik After my last post 'Weave gratitude into your life', one of the main questions I was asked was how to ensure being present. As I mentioned in the previous article, we have no shortage of distractions in our everyday life as every single second, minute, and hour slips away from us before we even realize it is gone.  I also gave a method by which we can consciously focus on being grateful throughout the day.  In this article, I want to suggest another method that can possibly be even more fun in our journey towards a more grateful living. Get a group of friends you can connect with and create a gratitude group. You can help each other and guide each other to stay on the path of gratitude. You can even help each other notice more things to be grateful for.  Even if, in a group of 3-4 people, each can have 2 things to be grateful for twice a week, it is a good place to start.  There are times when

Image by jcomp on Freepik We all know the power of gratitude. We all know, the more we have to be thankful for, the more we have opportunities to be thankful for. This is possibly one of the most well-known mantras since the time people understood the concept of the law of attraction. But still, the moment we get caught up in our daily life, gratitude more often than not slips way back into our priority lists. Have you noticed that the only time you are holding on to the attitude of gratitude is when you are present in the here and now?  So accepted and acknowledged that we in our daily lives have enough attractions, distractions, to-do lists, not-to-do lists, etc. which all come together from making sure we are all not always in a state of gratitude.  The universe is very smart, it has given us the tool to achieve so many things, but also made sure the only way we can use it

Image by brgfx on Freepik When we are born, we come into this life with a clean slate, to be filled in with our experiences, learnings, and understandings. The wonder years as amazing as they are, are also the years when our brains accept all information without question. So they are also crucial years to form all kinds of beliefs. Some beliefs may be from our own experiences, while others can even be formed while listening to a conversation between adults, or even from media. In fact, these days media also counts among the most powerful influencers in belief formation. These beliefs can also start from the simplest of habits like putting on the right sock before the left. Or if the parents use harmless threats to get their child to do something. Maybe something like "If you leave your towel by the door, you'll have bad luck all day." Now the parent would have told that just to get things done, but for

Image by pressfoto on Freepik One of the biggest topics of interest over forever may be Manifestation. Everyone wants to manifest something or the other, me included. But so very often as we get closer and closer to the goal, something seems to pull us away.  As we start noticing the signs and signals that we are almost there, things invariably start going wrong or falling apart. If it is a relationship manifestation, there may be unexplained conflicts. If it is a job manifestation, the last round of interviews may probably get postponed for no reason. If it is a travel manifestation, something may get canceled at the last minute. If it is a home manifestation, the neighbors may not match your wavelength.  Sounds familiar?  Why does this happen? Why is it that when we are so close to getting something, everything changes? When we are trying to manifest something, maybe a relationship, we get caught up in doing everyt

Tired photo created by diana.grytsku - www.freepik.com I've already covered one aspect of procrastination with respect to the need for perfection. In this article let's see another aspect of it, with respect to our intuition.  Is procrastination always a bad thing? Or is it that intense resistance you feel to do something, is because of a gut feeling that is forcing you to look in a different direction?  Our intuition is extremely powerful, should we choose to listen to it. And it tries to tell us in multiple ways when something is off or just does not feel right. Like maybe the resistance you feel when you've to make an important investment or meet someone or the phone call that you keep putting off or maybe even the resistance you feel when you've to apply for a certain job. Is it all just laziness or is your mind and body trying to point you in a different direction? A better one maybe?  It could help to talk 

Lifestyle photo created by jcomp - www.freepik.com Cutting energy cords is no longer an exotic term. Most of you would have heard of it and a lot of you may have also tried it and experienced the multiple benefits of this simple exercise.  For the uninitiated, energy cords or etheric cords form as a result of physical, mental, and emotional attachments to others, to various experiences, and even to objects. The cords can be both positive and negative. The positive cords can inspire us, motivate us, energize us, and may even bring out the best in us. But the negative cords can make us feel drained, lethargic, dull, and mostly give us a constant feeling that something is off.  We all have multiple cords attached to us at all times, but energy is always changing, shifting and moving, and a lot of old cords do wither away and fall off with time. There are however certain cords that keep us stuck to the past and hold us back from moving ahead in life. These are the ones

Night sky photo created by wirestock - www.freepik.com When I say the Universe is a good listener, I mean the Universe is always listening. The universe is also listening to all the self-talks I mentioned about in the previous article. But this is about something different. Have you ever tried sitting down and just talking to the Universe? A simple conversation. Maybe when you just relaxing with your hot cup of tea or coffee, maybe when you are just sitting watching the rain or the stars, or maybe even a bird hopping around or swimming lazily in the water. I am mentioning moments like these since these are naturally tranquil moments when it is a lot easier to connect with the Universal energy. And what exactly to talk about with the Universe? Talk about anything, like how you would talk to a friend. Talk about your life, frie

Person thinking photo created by freepik - www.freepik.com After ' Tell yourself a different story'  & 'The universe is a good listener'  , it is now time to talk 'to' your problems. Yes, it is talk 'to' your problems, not about them.  But aren't problems something we all vehemently avoid, resist, and try to run away from? So why would we talk 'to' our problems? And even if we did, what do we tell our problems? It is definitely not something like a lament, complaint, or cynical comment. It is also not one out of self-pity, from a place of a victim or a defeatist.  I also accept not all problems can have this approach, but a lot of problems can give some interesting insights if we just decide to talk to them.  So how to talk 'to' our problems?   It can be as simple as this "I understand you are in my life for a reason, to either help me

Listen photo created by evening_tao - www.freepik.com So what is the story you've been telling yourself all your life? What have you been training yourself to believe about yourself? And how has it been slowly but steadily shaping up your life?  The stories can have words like I am not worthy, not good enough, I always have bad luck, it never works for me, I never win, money keeps running out, I am not pretty enough, etc. I am sure you get the gist.  Over time these words can wrap around us like a security blanket, something which we refuse to let go. The reason why we refuse to let go of these stories is that we have built up our whole lives around these words. Changing the story can invariably have a domino effect causing a ripple effect of changes that can radiate all over our lives and lifestyle. Our brain is smart enough to know that, sometimes so smart that it knows exactly what ch

Diwali festival photo created by freepik - www.freepik.com The one thing I've realized in all my time working with others is that those who get the fastest results are those who come in with the awareness that they have an issue.   With awareness comes the acceptance to take responsibility for whatever issue they are facing in life. Be it health, finances or relationships of any kind.  With this responsibility also comes the realization that if the cause of the problem lies within them, so does the power to make any changes that may be needed to shift the energy of the problem.  Once the energy of the problem is shifted, the problem has to shift. When that shift happens, the whole parameter of 'being stuck in a problem' automatically dissolves. And when that happens all the other energies start moving. Almost like clockwork.  Now imagine if you will, a clog stuck in this clockwork. This clog can be denial, jus

Meditation photo created by freepik - www.freepik.com An often misunderstood sentence is 'Control your emotions before your emotions control you'. A lot of us unfortunately try to resist feeling the emotions, mistaking them for control. Others feel them but push them inside. Both ways are almost always counter-productive. It is impossible to control anything without even acknowledging its presence in the first place. All emotions are beautiful, they are our guides. They help us find our answers. They help us connect, they help us bond, they help us understand and they help us express.  The problem is only when we let them slip away from us, or when we cannot stop feeling a certain way or get so carried away in an emotion that it feels like going down a never-ending slippery slope.  So an easier way of controlling our emotions is to first simply pause and try to understand why we are feeling a certain way. To do that w

Zen background photo created by rawpixel.com - www.freepik.com We can help some people all the time, we can help all the people some time, but if we have to help all the people all the time it can get incredibly draining. But some people are hardwired that way. It is very difficult for them not to feel obligated to put their own interests and well-being aside for the sake of anyone and everyone who approaches them. It is almost as if there is an inbuilt trigger that goes off as soon as they are approached for any kind of work - making it impossible for them to refuse, no matter the effect on their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. It also interferes with their time management skills and thus productivity. It can result in these people feeling stressed, depleted, anxious, helpless, etc.  The other impact of being hardwired like this is that they become easy targets for energy vampires. Energy vampires are those who feed

Scented candle photo created by freepik - www.freepik.com The things that eat us up from inside, the things we hold inside, the emotions that are desperate to get out are most of the time because of our own fears of others' reactions. The fear of being judged, ridiculed and even patronized is so intimidating that holding all these painful thoughts, feelings and emotions inside seem to be a better option.  But we are all well aware of the implications of carrying such heavy baggage around. At the least, it is going to be extremely stressful but if it is held in for too long, it can also cause physical, mental and emotional long-term damage. Sad but true, a lot of men feel it is weak to be vulnerable, probably as a result of childhood conditioning and for a lot of women there is a fear of shame as well.  But everyone feels emotions, everyone hurts, everyone has feelings and everyone makes mistakes at some point or other

Massage background photo created by freepik - www.freepik.com Recently I was trying to plan something and for some reason, everything kept falling apart. The more I tried to fix it, newer and unexpected issues kept cropping up. And then I realized I was trying too hard - I was fighting and stressing to fix the issue. I had to take a step back and just accept that there is a reason as to why nothing was working. There were some compromises to be made to my original plan and I decided to go with it without any fight or resistance. Surprise! Surprise! Things worked out way better than I had even planned for. When you trust the Universe and let go of the control a little bit and allow the universe to take over, it can be magical.  On another occasion, a while back, I tried to change my place of work because of its multiple limitations. I was frustrated and angry, and left the place with all these emotions boiling inside me and went to

Foto de spa belleza creado por freepik - www.freepik.es It is a well-known fact that we are held back by our limitations. It is also common knowledge that we have to move past/release our limiting thoughts and beliefs to get ahead in life. All the alternative healing modalities are excellent in working with, identifying and releasing these limitations.  But today I would like to talk about one more factor. Moving forward along with our limiting beliefs and releasing them along the way. More often than not we are aware of our own limitations and repeat them to ourselves like a mantra. "I cannot do this because I have this problem." "I cannot do this because I am not good enough to do that," etc. I am sure you get the idea.  But what if we can just accept, acknowledge and move ahead along with these limitations, and not use them as a reason to stay behind in life? What if you can stop resigni

We all come to earth innocent and impressionable. But we also bring with us a lot of influences that have been pre-programmed into our DNA. Influences from our parent's genetic makeup which in turn have been shaped by the genetic makeup of their previous generations and so on.  But we also come with our own special essence - the one that makes us unique. As we move on through life, through our school, high school and college years, we get shaped by an unbelievable amount of external influences. Friends, family, teachers, mentors and even media. Sometimes even a short meeting with someone who has a powerful presence can have a lot of influence on our lives.  Some of these can shape us for the better. But unfortunately, some of these influences can have an adverse effect on us, altering us and disconnecting us from our own true essence. I've personally worked on myself each time I became aware that I was not being myse

Pebbles photo created by rawpixel.com - www.freepik.com Are you a perfectionist? Is it really hard for you to move ahead or complete your tasks till it is all perfect? And even then do you keep coming back to check everything is good enough or can it be improved further?  Does this quest for perfectionism keep you stuck in the same spot for too long because you would rather see this as perfect than what lies ahead?  The need to be perfect may by itself have its roots elsewhere, but sometimes it may just hold you back in a place of "I am not ready to move ahead"  or "I am still not done here" even when others see no apparent reason for you to be doing what you are.  Don't get me wrong, perfectionism also means you see things others don't and are incredibly grateful you stuck to your decisions to not just settle. But when you start noticing yourself procrastinating o

Zen photo created by awesomecontent - www.freepik.com There are those times when things get rough. Nothing seems to work out and no matter how much you try, things always fall apart.  So how do get through tough times like that? How to know and believe there is something good in all of it.  Even if you cannot tap, or are not in a  position to work with EFT at that time, make time for this small prayer to the Universe.  All you need to say is something like this: "Though I've no idea as to why it is all going wrong or nothing seems to work, if there is even the slightest chance that all this is happening for a good reason or it is all for the best in some way, I choose to be open to that possibility. I ask for the strength and courage from the Universe and Divine to be able to handle these tough times, and the wisdom to recognize all the good that is hidde

Zen garden photo created by rawpixel.com - www.freepik.com All of us go through certain trying times in our lives when we come across some trying problems. Problems that may not be in the forefront, but always lingering in the background, just enough to be persistently annoying and affecting our lives. A short setup statement script to help with these kinds of problems is this: "Even though it is beyond me to find an answer or solution to this problem, I can choose to release this problem to the universe, to be resolved in a way and manner that's for my highest good and the highest good of all concerned.  Even though this problem has been going on for too long and is embedded too deep, I still choose to let go of all my need to control, solve, manipulate or fix this problem and am open to releasing it to the universe, for it to be resolved as easily, as smoot

This is a slightly different topic than the others I've covered so far.  We have focused on finding various aspects to help heal ourselves from different matters of the mind and body.  There are however a whole lot of people on this planet who suffer from similar problems as we do but are unaware of alternative healing modalities that might help them in multiple ways.  This is a short post with just a suggestion to add one line along with each time you tap. This, so you can pass along some good energy to others around you who may need healing for some similar problem as yours. Of course, this will happen if their higher self is open to healing.  Here is the sentence, you can repeat a few times as you tap, wherever you feel it can fit in easily.  "As I heal with the help of the divine and universal healing energies, I choose to share this healing energy with all those across